How I Wish That I Never Married Him/Her -Part 1

At the time of marriage, many yet to be wives have expectations that their marriage life will be a true heaven on earth, full of happiness and sublime. But sometimes the reality is not the same as their expectations. Sometimes it turns out that the nature of their husbands is not as good as they thought. Or even as time goes by, the attitude of the husband towards the wife keeps worsening.harsh,rude,egoistic, hot tempered, not romantic, not responsible, ,likes hitting, has got no time to communicate with the wife, and many other bad characteristics tend to show within him. In the end, one begins to regret as to why she accepted his marriage proposal. This is escorted with that inner felt unsaid feeling within the heart:  “How I Wish I Never Married Him’’

Sometimes it’s the opposite; the same events can be experienced by the husband as well. After a long time of union under the marriage bond, and the reality turn out that the nature of the wife is not the same as his expectations, or even that the attitude of the wife worsens with time. In the end, one begins to regret as to why he married her in the first instance. This is accompanied with statements like ‘’How I Wish I Never Married Her’’.

For that reason therefore, it’s important that one is critically selective in choosing a life partner, choose one who is good morally and also good in faith. And seek advice from those who understand the faith, those who are pious and can be trusted. {ustadz(Islamic teachers), parents, known religious preachers in the area, and others]. Seek their say pertaining the person you intend to marry, this will help you to arrive at an objective decision and not only a subjective and who knows, they might know more than that person than we do.

Marriage its self is a very big vow, its one hard responsibility for the husband, in that it’s him who sought permission from the wife’s parents in order to live with her in a one ark known as a household which is indeed headed by him.

A wife is one kind of mandate to any husband. Because a husband holds a responsibility of Qowwam (leader/head) for the wife.

A leader (Qowwam) who has to fulfil the 3 functions, thus:

1) – Guide his wife;
2) – Sustains the wife’s wellbeing;
3) – Protects His Wife.