At the time of marriage, many yet to be wives have expectations
that their marriage life will be a true heaven on earth, full of happiness and
sublime. But sometimes the reality is not the same as their expectations. Sometimes
it turns out that the nature of their husbands is not as good as they thought. Or
even as time goes by, the attitude of the husband towards the wife keeps
worsening.harsh,rude,egoistic, hot tempered, not romantic, not responsible, ,likes
hitting, has got no time to communicate with the wife, and many other bad characteristics
tend to show within him. In the end, one begins to regret as to why she
accepted his marriage proposal. This is escorted with that inner felt unsaid feeling
within the heart: “How I Wish I Never
Married Him’’
Sometimes it’s the opposite; the same events can be experienced
by the husband as well. After a long time of union under the marriage bond, and
the reality turn out that the nature of the wife is not the same as his expectations,
or even that the attitude of the wife worsens with time. In the end, one begins
to regret as to why he married her in the first instance. This is accompanied
with statements like ‘’How I Wish I Never Married Her’’.
For that reason therefore, it’s important that one is critically
selective in choosing a life partner, choose one who is good morally and also
good in faith. And seek advice from those who understand the faith, those who
are pious and can be trusted. {ustadz(Islamic teachers), parents, known
religious preachers in the area, and others]. Seek their say pertaining the
person you intend to marry, this will help you to arrive at an objective
decision and not only a subjective and who knows, they might know more than
that person than we do.
Marriage its self is a very
big vow, its one hard responsibility for the husband, in that it’s him who
sought permission from the wife’s parents in order to live with her in a one
ark known as a household which is indeed headed by him.
A wife is one kind of mandate to any husband. Because a husband
holds a responsibility of Qowwam (leader/head) for the wife.
A leader (Qowwam) who has to fulfil the 3 functions, thus:
1) – Guide his wife;
2) – Sustains the wife’s wellbeing;
3) – Protects His Wife.
2) – Sustains the wife’s wellbeing;
3) – Protects His Wife.
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