Family Problems,When It All Comes To The Worst

Building a family as a result of nikah {marriage} is not the same as choosing clothes. Some decide to buy many clothes in order to fulfil their desires; actually some even rent or borrow clothes from their friends in order to fulfil their desired dressing code. This is almost the same with people who choose not to marry because they want to enjoy without needing to have.

Some of those with so much money to spend tend to have collection of clothes according to their needs and desires. From night dress code to party dress code, beach dress code and sometimes some have special clothes for each and every day of the week. Likewise many men and women who end up with a number of secret partners.

When any clothing’s are newly purchased, they are widely praised just as the love shared by the new weds.

When that once nice cloth gets old, it’s thrown away and even discarded. For the case of marriage, the old partners who may no longer be handsome or beautiful are divorced.

If this is the case, then what is the intrinsic essence of marriage?

That's why the aim for marriage is not only for the pursuit of Mawaddah i.e. burning love that accentuates the physical and worldly appearance. But also any blessed marriage is driven towards the achievement of sakinah, i.e. tranquillity and peace. Also Rahmah {blessings}, a sense of love that is based on faith is also liable for heartfelt togetherness in joy and sorrow.

May Allah bless us with the ability to build a family of paradise, one filled with Sakinah, Mawaddah and Rahmah. Aamiin

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Loneliness,Sorrow And Psychological Development Of Any Child

       

 Being single creates that atmosphere where one is free to live according to their own wishes but it’s also linked with strong attachments which can grip the heart and make it ache with sadness. A single life creates a great link to sorrow and companionship to loneliness. 


A feeling when a child is psychologically affected as a result of sadness can only be compared to lily flowers which open their leaves in the early morning but finally close their leaves during the night.



If a child does not have any close friend or close relative who can guide them as well create fun and happy moments for them, then they might end up living a life which is more like they are being imprisoned in a very dark prison cell where they cannot see anything apart from nets of spiders and cannot hear anything except the sound of creeping insects..

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A Simple Islamic Way Of Putting An End To Corruption And Other Evils

Everyone feels proud whenever they achieve anything in life,
but the majority of us tend to forget to spend a few minutes on our prayer mats in order to thank our lord for all His blessings He bestows upon us.

Imagine how many parents feel proud when they are able to send their children abroad for further studies but fail to watch and control their children’s attitude and behaviours when they return home after their studies...

Imagine how many children are proud because of the wealth owned by their parents, but end up failing to create, build or even reach their own maximum personal capability.

What about those who spend time searching for the most expensive school for their children, but end up forgetting to search for a good spiritual/ religious teacher for their children.

Do not be surprised in that in end:
The richer they get, the more they become so arrogant.
The cleverer they become, the more corrupt they get...
The more they become famous, the more they start forgetting and ignoring their parents...

Why is it so?
It’s because all what they seek to achieve are the worldly pleasures but tend to forget he here after...
It’s because all what they pursue is the perception of fellow human beings and not that of their creator, Allah.
its because all their targets are things which are fanatical, with no great importance or meaning attached to them.

It’s so often that many end up:
#Stressed
‪#‎Restless
‪#‎Sad
‪#‎Saturated
‪#‎Some end up committing Suicide

For that reason therefore, a good education system must always start from the introduction of our children to their creator... teach them that good deeds and all religious rituals must be done not because they are commandments from Allah but because of the self awareness and love towards Allah..

Oh Allah, make our families among the best families before you, those that love you and those that you love most. Aamiin

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The Islamic View On Seeking Success!!!

Just as it’s surely impossible to figure out what the future holds for us, all that we own today, is not guaranteed to remain in our possession forever

Incase we decide to make a comparison between the things we are well acquainted with and those that we posses less or no acquaintance with, automatically the later weighs heavier
.
 One who is quickly satisfied with his own today’s accomplishments, may not be able to compensate for the acceleration in the future
He who is the richest today, who knows he might the poorest of tomorrow. Such is the nature of life and indeed the power of Allah.

Like a wheel which continues to change position......

If success is measured on the extent of wealth, beauty, and the popularity of a person
Imagine, how many people who were once glorified but are now downcasted or have had their names disappear from the popularity chart with time.

In the History Books...
One’s name is remembered eternally depending on the extent to which he was of benefit to others in his life span.
And as Muslims, we must always remember that Allah measures our righteousness or faith from our ahsanu 'amala ....
That’s the best deeds/charity, sincere charity which is solely done to please Allah

It’s from here that our intentions are tested....
Is it that all what we do is done to please Him?

It’s here,
That our work ethics is accessed, to what extent are we beneficial to others?
Not just what we ripped from the world, but rather what we planted in the world
Not just by how far we pursue popularity in this world, but rather the main question lies in whether Allah is pleased with our deeds

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The Unique Stages In Attaining Allah's Pleasures

There is one unique thing which is common in everyone’s life. Have you ever realised that the pleasure within eating something can only be realised if the food being eaten can eliminate the discomfort felt as a result hunger.

The pleasure within sleeping can only be realised at the time when one wakes up, when the desire to continue sleeping is no longer felt.

The pleasure within using our cloths is only realised if by using them, one is able to protect his skin from direct contact with the sun, when one is able to protect him/her self from the effect of coldness and other kinds of discomfort.

The pleasure achieved from marriage can only be realised if both partners mutually share and feel the power of love, care and comfort between themselves.  To many, the pleasure of marriage is attained when the two partners are blessed with children.

And so forth and forth, verily with the blessings which you may have recently received in your life, who knows its one of the ways that Allah uses to relieve us from difficult situations. For that reason therefore, any kind of sadness, difficulty or even pain felt in our lives is a sign of great things to come, it’s a sign of Allah’s blessings. 

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